And why you should!
If you can’t manage your mind – you can’t manage anything!
Or at least, that’s how it appears to me. Maybe you agree?
Whether it’s coping with the day-to-day ups and downs of life, or trying to motivate yourself to achieve a goal, maybe to muster up the necessary effort to learn new skills and pass exams – it’s that little voice in your head that will decide whether you succeed or fail.
If you live in the UK, perhaps you caught the journalist, Johann Hari talking on the Victoria Derbyshire show? You can find the details below if you would like to watch it on Catch-Up, but basically, after experiencing depression himself and failing to solve the problem with medicine, and having done a lot of research subsequently, he has come to the same conclusion as I have: We’ve got completely the wrong idea about depression and how to fix it.
I see a lot of people looking for help to get rid of anxiety and depression. There’s a lot of it about – could it have something to do with our modern-day lifestyles?
Johann Hari says, as do I, once you learn what your emotions are for, so that they become useful instead of a burden; and once you understand what you really need, and know how to fulfil those needs healthily, there is no need for the depression any more.
It has done its job.
Yes, we’ve evolved to keep depression in our repertoire, as we have all emotions. And yes, they all serve an essential purpose.
Did you know that despite our believing we are rational creatures, we can’t actually make decisions based on facts alone? We need to know how we feel about that decision. People who have damaged the part of the brain responsible for emotions (the amygdala) can’t make decisions! They simply cannot choose one option over another.
An invitation to stop complaining, from Rudy Francisco
So we are agreed then, emotions are a good thing!
Where we go wrong, is resisting our emotions including depression and anxiety, and trying to get rid of them, before their mission is accomplished.
If you’ve been reading my newsletters over the years, you will know that this is one of my favourite topics! Not just because it’s so enlightening, but because the vast majority of us haven’t got the first idea of how to make sense of what’s going on for us and then use it in a constructive way. So instead we bump our way through life, often feeling a victim of circumstances.
And whenever we feel powerless we are indeed a victim! A victim of a great big illusion!
So what can you do when your mind is preventing you from achieving your goals?
Enter… Mindset Coaching
As you know, Quest Cognitive Hypnotherapy is the only hypnotherapy that we know of that has compared its effectiveness against other talking therapies within the NHS. The results from the pilot study concluded that:
“QCH [Quest Cognitive Hypnotherapy] may offer a brief effective treatment for clients with clinically significant levels of anxiety and/or depression, widening client choice.”
QCH Includes WordWeaving hypnotherapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, New Code NLP and a whole raft of other brief approaches to changing your mind.
Quickly and automatically.
If you would like help to manage your mind and achieve your goals in 2018 you know where I am.
We’re not machines.
Read Johann Hari’s book, Lost Connections.
The story used to be there’s a chemical imbalance in your brain and you need to take drugs to fix it.
It’s deeply misleading and unscientific to say low levels of serotonin causes depression and there’s a better story about depression waiting for us.
We know that all Human beings have physical needs. We need warmth, food, clean air and if we’re deprived of them we’re going to be in trouble really fast.
But there’s equally strong evidence that we have deep psychological needs. We need to feel we belong, that there’s meaning and purpose to our lives. We need stability and to feel secure.
But in our culture, fewer and fewer people are getting those needs met – and that’s the main reason that we have the depression and anxiety we have today.
Listen to what he has to say. His interview begins at 1.23.30