There’s quite a spread of problems that I can help people with, but they all have 3 things in common, and because I help you sort your head out, I’m known as The Head Fixer! and many people will actually travel 100s of miles to get me to help them.
Humbling, or what!
Whatever your challenge, you’ll sort your head out when you:
- Filter out the noise (of whatever’s in the way of your achieving your goals)
- Make sense of your emotions (which can help you make great decisions… or not!) and
- Tune into your brainpower (so that you use it the way it’s designed to work best.)
And that’s how successful people sort their heads out and get things done.
Because they know that to sort your head out you have to get your unconscious brain on board, otherwise you run the very real risk of thwarting your efforts.
The term, ‘unconscious’ is a metaphor. When I use that word I am referring to the parts of the brain that get on with the job without your conscious involvement.
Obviously there are parts of the brain that take care of your breathing, that make your heart continue to beat, and have you blink, or flinch, or whip your hand away from something hot long before you’ve had a chance to realise there’s something amiss.
That’s what I mean by the unconscious
The unconscious is there to make sense of the world and to keep you safe. It makes decisions on your behalf all the time, most of which you’re oblivious to.
And that’s a good thing, because it means you can concentrate on the more important and more interesting aspects of your life.
But it can either work with you or against you. Not because it’s a menace, but because of its remit and because of the quality of the instructions you give it.
Because you can use all the logic in the world to decide to quit smoking, lose weight, exercise more, do some public speaking, go networking, cold calling, etc etc, and still find something in the way of it actually happening.
Your unconscious mind is much stronger than your conscious, logical mind. So unless you’ve got it on board with your master-plan, you’ll find yourself putting another load in the washing machine!
New Year’s Resolutions
- How many of us have made a New Year’s resolution this year?
- How many of us have made plans for our businesses, our families, our health?
- How many of us are likely to succeed in achieving those goals?
Well, probably not as many as we hope!
According to a recent study in the UK, 43% of people broke their New Year’s resolutions before the end of January! 66% didn’t make it past February! And many didn’t even make it past the first few days!
Apparently that leaves only 8% of goals achieved. Not entirely what you’d call a humongous success rate!
There’s got to be a really good reason why we all set off with such good intentions and still manage to cock it up!
And it’s of course, all to do with the way the automatic, unconscious part of the brain works, and whether you’re working with it or against it. And that’s why, to achieve anything, you’ve got to sort your head out first.
Remember, it’s there to make sense of the world and keep you safe. It stores memories of when you were in danger. Apparently in danger. Remember, no sabre-tooth tigers here, but plenty of stressful events we react to in just the same way.
Imagine:
- Aged 8, standing up in front of the class, and struggling to read, and your classmates laughing at you.
- Aged 5, losing your way down the corridor at your new school, only to become scared out of your wits when the head teacher catches you wandering about.
- Aged 12, moving to a new school, everyone else already having made friends, feeling like you don’t belong.
Being a pattern-matching machine, any situation now that sufficiently resembles the threat, even if consciously you don’t see it – boom! There’s an instantaneous reaction, because your brain has identified:
This = That
And you’ll find yourself behaving differently from what you intended, and getting results you don’t want.
Some of the strategies your unconscious mind can use to deter you are:
- Black and white thinking. (You’re better off being able to create new, innovative solutions instead.)
- (You’re better off staying calm and considering your options.)
- Labelling yourself. (Dearie me! You’re not going to be very motivated if you’re telling yourself you’re a lazy good-for-nothing. Even if it is true! Ha ha!)
- Using a fixed mindset. (No, you’re not going to be good at everything all the time. Give yourself a break, and the space and time to learn new skills.)
And all in the name of keeping you out of danger!
So stage one of your goal-setting process is to sort your head out and filter out the noise, i.e. The stuff getting in your way.
What beliefs about yourself, other people and the world, limit what you expect to achieve? Leave me a comment below.
Let me help you sort your head out!
Remember to give me a shout if you want a sure-fire, quick and painless method to get the noise out of the way, leaving you free to get on with achieving your goals.
It’s great to identify any obstacles. You’re already ahead of most people. But if you don’t deal with these things, they’ll continue to hold you back. Remember – they don’t have to remain a problem, and if you’re not sure how to let them go, I can help. It’s quick and pain-free!
