Emotional intelligence

Ever had to rethink a strategy?

Caught with my pants down! Go on! Bet you’d have done the same… Making the most of the recent glorious weather and living on the river, on the day of the Summer Solstice, 2017 I cycled along the river to Reading for a routine checkup at the Royal Berks Hospital. I’ve been [...]

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How to get rid of depression

Depression – when you’re in it, it’s difficult to see that it’s a temporary situation, and that, “this too shall pass.” That’s the thing about depression, isn’t it? It’s reckoned that we’ve evolved to keep depression in the repertoire because it is so effective at keeping us small and protective [...]

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Some strategies for success

1. Find an appropriate strategy Remember what we said recently? You are far more likely to achieve your goal by continually making small changes until you get there, rather than expecting to do it all in one big jump. Look for someone who has already accomplished what you intend to [...]

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Thought for the day

Well – here’s a thought for the day! This home video on YouTube is mercifully short, given that you probably know where this is going (or isn’t) within the first few moments… And you might be wondering why I’m asking you to watch an amateur video of a robot vacuum [...]

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Overcoming hopelessness

You’re not stuck with it, no matter how it seems – there really are ways of overcoming hopelessness. Overcoming hopelessness by Nick Vujicic What are you looking for? So many teenagers are looking for love. Show them this video and help them find it within themselves. When you don’t get [...]

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Anger management – the three secrets

You could call this Anger Management 101 It was certainly a lesson well-learnt for me – because one of us didn’t need anger management and the other didn’t have it! In a room with an angry person I often tell my clients that years ago, when I was teaching, I [...]

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Stop praising your kids!

Because you want the best for them! Have you ever wondered why is it that some folks stall at the first hurdle and others pick themselves up and have another go? It’s all to do with attitude and what you focus on, in other words, mindset. And we develop our [...]

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Do you know how to achieve your goal?

It’s a simple enough question, but do you really know how to achieve your goal? Let me tell you about a time that I came pretty close to achieving one particular goal… Maybe you do know how to achieve your goal. But a lot of us don’t realise what’s going [...]

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How to get rid of anxiety, especially if you’re anxious to do so!

No one likes to feel uncomfortable (do they?) so why would you put up with it when you can easily find out here how to get rid of anxiety. Notwithstanding the misery of that horrible, nasty feeling, why do you need to get rid of anxiety?Anxiety makes us stupid!Ever noticed that [...]

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Is your interpretation causing your suffering?

Is your interpretation causing your suffering? By that I mean, are you aware that you suffer, not at the hands of other people, but because of the automatic, unconscious interpretations you make? Pure coincidence –  my last article was about being stuck to our ‘phones and not relating to real people [...]